“How many times do I need to tell you? Don’t speak with your mouthful!”
And, since we utter these words, we immediately change the food in our mouths to the deepest recesses of our lips so as to not eliminate any of it.
“Slow down and chew, do you?”
We state as we gulp down another mouthful of food which managed to get out of our fork to our gullet with our barely noticing it, or tasting it.
We complete as we sink gratefully on the sofa and turn the TV or radio on.
“No, you’re not having ice cream, you know that sweet things are bad for you.”
As we mentally check our secret stash of goodies while preparing the shopping list.
“It won’t hurt you to walk. I used to have to walk much longer when I was your age.”
As we plan our errands with the car to use up the least of our precious free time as possible.
We are so good at giving advice, indeed, we’re masters at it. It’s our job as responsible parents and responsible adults to fix and enhance the ways of those younger than us (or equal to us, or older to us). It is our mission, our driving energy, our right, our responsibility.
Yes, it’s very important that we direct and help others along the way, particularly our children or dependents. The more you live as a role model, the less likely you are to be caught out.
And kids, especially, catch on soon. I was living a ‘do as I say, but not as I do’ about a year and a half ago with my daughter. I told her she couldn’t have some chocolate, that sweet things all the time were not great for her, that she could have some fruit when she was hungry. She left the kitchen and I reached for the chocolate jar. A moment later, as I was savoring the minty chocolate in my mouth, I felt small eyes… And had to come up with an explanation, quickly. So I started practicing what I preach too.
Since then, I have been watching my speech (verbal and non-verbal) and made sure that, as much as possible, I do not send out conflicting messages. The hardest part? These ‘little white lies’ which people use daily. Sure, the odd one still slips out, but most of the time I say things which can’t be replicated at a time or place which will have me standing in total mortification.
It’s hard work and requires breaking and changing habits, but the earlier you begin practicing what you preach, the sooner the message will come across as sincere and one to be followed, Wildlife Trapping services in Stuart Florida, rather than you to be obtained around one way or another or spoken out of with half truths (or half lies).
Perhaps your kids will not thank you for it, but soon you will be thanking yourselves for it.